Tuesday, 21 August 2012

Our Cynthia, Kidnapped and Murdered in Lagos! Will they let her rest in peace? Written By Aishatu Ene Ella


In the last few days I have seen had my heart torn, stripped and broken in pieces first by the disappearance and death of my Dearest friend and secondly by the wickedness exhibited by Nigerians, passing judgment on someone they never knew or met. 


Cynthia
When She was officially declared missing, we put up a number online so people with information can call and help out, off over 500 calls we received in 3 days, only 2 of those calls were from people who actually helped with information, One was my Dear friend Nuhu Kwajafa, The other was the Area Commander who called to inform us of the arrest of the people. The others were heartbreaking to say this least, I wondered how her mother would have coped if she had to deal with silliness, pettiness and undeserved hate from strangers, who just took one look at a lady and decided to judge her based on her looks.

When The sad news of her death broke, I made a comment and said I hope " all those who have insisted she was with a man would have their answer now and let her rest in peace" how wrong I was, They wouldn’t rest, they would only go back and manufacture a more hurtful and painful story, formulate more rumors and pass it around as facts, hmmm it is well. I have no comments for hateful people, I just want to share with you the real Cynthia, and the Cynthia we knew not the one who hateful people have created in the last few days.

Cynthia was born on 10th of November 1987 to Gen Frank and Joy- Rita Nkem Osokogu, Udoka as her Mother named her, even as a baby was a uniting factor in her family. Her Mother had 3 boys before her; she was the last baby and only girl.

Her Parents had settled in Jos where we were and still neighbors, We became friends because in those days there were only few houses in the area. I was the last child and so didn’t have a lot of playmates my age, her brothers were my mates and Cynthia as the only girl didn’t have much friends around the neighborhood either so she tagged along when we had our "adventures" and "yawo".

Cynthia the Model and Business Woman

2004 was one of the hardest years for the Family I was raised with in Jos, Cynthia and her Mom was with me all the way. They were there to comfort, assist, cook etc.

She was a tall beautiful and slender girl, we always teased her because even at 13 she was taller than me and the same height with her brothers, she was a tomboy all the way. Determined, stubborn and focused. As she grew into her height Her Mum and I playful suggest she try modeling because of her structure, Cynthia took it seriously, even though her major focus was education she gave modeling a trial and did quiet well as a model. In 2007, she got her first major run way job and I will never forget the day she called me from Lagos after she had been paid, she said she wouldn’t want to waste the money and would buy clothes and bring to school to sell. The first badge of clothes never made it to keffi as industrious Cynthia who staying with her brother during her visit at Air force Quarters sold the clothes to her brother, his colleagues and their friends, she told me she made 3 times her capital and immediately re-invested, bought more stock, came to Keffi and rented a shop, that was the birth of her Baby: "Dresscode". 

I remember I bought her the forms to one of the national competitions some years ago, she passed the screening passed 2 stages and called me one day to say she was asked to compromise to get through the next round, I told her to withdraw and she left. That was in 2011S. She never entered any major pageant after that
When it came to business Cynthia was midas, she knew when to make a great sale, she was never at a loss, her business grew from strength to strength all this while she was not even 21, @ 21 a lot of the people who now make it a point to formulate such hateful rumors were still struggling to buy Jamb Results.

Cynthia the Sister and Daughter:

Cynthia was like the baby sister I didnt have, She was my confidant, stylist and a great comfort. We shared a lot, tears, smiles, laughs, joys ,sorrows and was always at my service. She was greatly involved in charity, anytime I sent a text or posted a picture of someone needing medical support, I could count on Cynthia as one of the first respondents.  When she was in Abuja, she would always come and volunteer, run errands, always with a smile. When I get to Jos, she will be at the motor park waiting, Thats if she doesnt pick me up from Abuja. Not to forget my person Stylist, she either bought or chose most of my clothes, most times my friend say "you look nice" i tell them "ask Cynthia oh, I have no idea what I am wearing". Style has never been a strong point of mine, but if Cynthia bought it or asked me to buy it I knew it was good and stylish
To her Mother, Cynthia was her heart. Several times i will ask Cynthia please dont go to Jos it is volatile and she will reply me " Mumsy is alone at home", or when she is in Jos and there was a fight I would call and ask her to leave Jos and come and stay a few days with me, she will say "I cant leave Mumsy alone here now" . That was our Cynthia, Others first.

When it was time to serve, while others would work their service to areas full of opportunity like Abuja, Lagos and Porthacort, Cynthia worked her service to crisis ridden Jos to be close to her Mother, Is that what a "runs girl" does?

At age 24, Cynthia had a successful business, and was running a Post Graduate Program in Public Administration, sadly people will ignore all that and choose to believe that because she is pretty and Young she must be a "Runsgirl", how sad, we Judge people by our own low and shabby standards.

She earned every kobo she had by good old hard work, Lets even forget her Father supported her financially but that didn’t turn her to a spoilt brat she was as determined as ever to make her own mark and earn her own keep.

The world and people who have no standards can stand afar and Judge all they want but we know who you are and we love you, we don’t need to defend You My baby, just setting the records straight.

The security Situation in our country now is horrible at best, people are kidnapped, robbed and killed everyday, why is it so hard to believe that a young girl was killed while going to pursue her legitimate business? If It was a man who was killed would we have come up with all these stories? If it was an older woman or someone not so attractive would we still? Her crime is being, young, pretty and a business woman. Hmmm, People, Have the decency to let us mourn in peace Please
Aishatu Ene Ella

38 comments:

  1. I am really sorry for your loss. People are judgmental on what they know nothing about. I can imagine a young lady trying to spread her network of friends and business which is what we all do, it is sad that she met with evil people. They will not go unpunished. Pls ignore the nonsense talk of others. May her soul rest in Peace.

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  2. May her beautiful soul rest in peace!

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  3. I think I knew her dad. He was in Edo college Benin. 33 yrs ago. Rest in peace young lady.

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  4. I am so sad to hear of your loss. My younger sister knew her very well and never said anything bad about her. In fact, she has her pix on her DP now. Said they were ery good friends and she used to come around to my house in Jos.

    Please, ignore low minded people selling rumours.

    May her soul rest in peace.

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  5. Bless You Aisha for this beautiful write up on your sister and friend.The good die young ,sometimes in bad situations like Cynthia may her soul rest in peace.As for the haters life is a mirror and we always judge people by what we are.Anyone who harbours evil and negativity expects it of others.

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  6. Bless You Aisha for this beautiful write up on your sister and friend.The good die young ,sometimes in bad situations like Cynthia may her soul rest in peace.As for the haters life is a mirror and we always judge people by what we are.Anyone who harbours evil and negativity expects it of others.

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  7. why are u botherin to set d records straight wit those kind of pple, i can assure you they' re kidnappers nd muderers.
    Whoever Cynthia was, its her life nd does not deserve to b murdered by anyone. May her beautiful soul rest in perfect peace, may God comfort us all nd heal our land.

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  8. Nnaji Obed Asiegbu21 August 2012 at 01:45

    It's well. May her soul rest in peace. I never thought otherwise when the story of her missing came public. Nigerians need to get their minds educated, we judge foolishly. God bless the soul of Cynthia

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  9. Aishatu, thanks for letting them know. I leave them all to God. I couldnt control d tears when i first saw the broadcasting of missing Cynthia. The surname catch my attention cos one was d bro happened to b my junior while n Jos and again we met n PH. All i can say is may her gentle soul rest in peace and i pray God give the Osokogu's fortitude to bear the loss

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    1. So sorry about the loss and the misconceptions from people! Accept my condolences. Who she is or not should not be the concern of any loving heart that appreciates the value n dignity of life,any reasonable person should be affected and worried about how she was killed and the insecurity problems facing the country. All the judges of character, sheath ur swords cos you are guilty in one way or the other of one misdeed!

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  10. So so sad. I'm even at a loss for words. I feel for Cynthia's mum, I feel for her family, I feel for u, Aisha. No one is safe. I remembered my cousin, Amina very pretty lady who met same fate as Cynthia while on a business trip. She was murdered at Agbor in 1999.What a wicked and heartless world we live in. Cynthia RIP

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  11. In the woirld we are now, people tend to read meaning to something they don't know much about and say what they feel like and believe what they feel is the truth which might not exit.
    May the soul of Cynthia rest in peace we would miss her so much....

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  13. People like to talk ill about others to feel good about their own lives,I hve been so mad @ some of the posts I ve seen in d last few weeks,life is transient 2day,the Osokogu's are mourning 2moro its some1 else,nobody knows who,how or when it would happen,make yours ways straight with God,& leave the dead alone!May God grant the entire Osokogu family & friends the fortitude 2 bear this loss.

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  14. The world is wicked, we have wicked people all over, may God help us and keep us away from the wicked ones, Amen. May her beautiful soul rest in perfect peace, Amen.

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  15. May God comfort her family. Nigerians express their anger and frustration with the conditions that they live in with mindless negativism and cynicism. This girls story broke my heart. How can people be so mean?

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  16. Sooo sad. May her peaceful soul Rest in Perfect peace and may the good Lord console the family especially the mother haaaaayyyyyyy only God knows the hurt she is feeling now....Thank God for dear friends....God bless you

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  17. With the wat is going on in our country right now,when people see a beautiful,successful young lady, the thing that comes to mind is "runs" and in most cases "we" are not wrong. When i first saw Cynthia's pictures on lindaikeji's blog,dat was the same thing i thought. May her soul rest in peace. Again we shd all learn not to judge. I pray the good Lord give her family and friends the fortitude to bear this loss.

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  18. May her gentle soul rest!

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  19. You are a good friend and a good friend you remain to her in her death, infact you are more than friends. Thank you.

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  20. To all d haters its say blook running through our veins. Once its time for us to leave this world we will all go so stop d stupid bullshit u are spreading. Rest in Peace Cynthia and ma God grant d family d fortitude to bear d loss

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  21. Thanks aisha,may the almighty God bless u 4 dis,don't mind those wicked souls who r just there to laugh n creat a bad name abt the dead may God purnish dem 100times,I feel 4 u n her family n may her gentle soul rest in perfect peace,wat a wicked world.

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  22. May her soul rest in peace! my sister, that is how much we have degenerated in this country, people just make comment just because they have the opportunity to do so. I know how devastating this could be to her family, well wishers and friends, but instead of sympathizing and empathizing with them,some people chose to add salt to their injured heart.
    I will urge the family to take heart and bear the loss with fortitude, may God see them through in Jesus name.
    We also pray for speedy dispensation of justice on the beasts that murdered her.

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  23. My dear wat do u xpect frm idle pple? dey wil also say trash. evn if she is a runs girl...is dat an excuse for any idiot to take her life? So sory abt ur gud frnd,just read abt her in 2day's vanguard 21/8/12. it is a pity dat pple r killed in dis country nowadays on a regular basis nd nothg is done abt it by d authorities. May her soul rest in peace.

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  24. Av been Speechless 4 ova 3hrs afta readin dis. I receivd a bbm bc declaring her a missin person! I's stunned @ her beauty & prayed she returned home unharmed. My heart was sure shattered wen i heard she's no more! May God giv her family †ђξ fortitude †☺ bear †ђξ loss, may God giv us all friends lik Aisha. May God also transform †ђξ mindsets of Nigerians & above all, may dez evil people b destroyed...

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  25. Cynthia may ur gentle soul rest in perfect peace.may God grant her family fortitude to bear her lost n may God comfort them

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  26. I read through this piece with a heavy heart. My heart bleed for my dear country, and what we are doing to ourselves. It is so so sad, that we have decided out of our indiscretion to waste a great talent and one of the future of our country Nigeria. May her soul find peace with God.

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  27. Let them say what they like but for certain the Sovereign Lord sees and knows it all. People do not know what degree of curse they invite upon their heads when they say stupid things they have no conviction about and that is not true. The rout of God will visit them some day. They may know something about her disappearance and death. They may be acting for some persons at a fee to be spreading such unpalatable rumours. May her soul not rest until her killers are exposed and meet their doom.

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  28. may her soul rest in peace..

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  29. It is really frightening what some of our young ones are up to, these days! I mean, how can University students be up to something as sinister and wicked as what they have done to this poor girl? And to think that she actually happens to be their sixth victim, as reportedly confessed by them, actually makes the whole thing even more scary! I am just imagining the kind of double life these wicked souls may be living by committing such a heinous crime one moment (not once, but six times!), and the next moment they are busy attending classes and relating to their classmates, friends and family as if nothing happened!

    It is also very sad that some people have completely bastardized the laudable concept/idea behind sites such as facebook, which is essentially to serve as a veritable avenue for people to meet and socialize. Instead, people like these devious undergraduates have chosen to use it as an easy and anonymous means of targeting, luring and murdering unsuspecting 'friends', who have trusted them enough to want to meet them in person.

    As much as one abhors the death penalty, one still believes people like these two murderous and their accomplices do not deserve one more breath the moment their cases have been determined by the Courts and the appropriate sentence passed on them! May Cynthia's gentle soul Rest In Peace, and may God grant her family and trusted friends like Aisha the fortitude to bear her irreparable loss, Amen!

    Abdullahi Usman

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  30. t is really frightening what some of our young ones are up to, these days! I mean, how can University students be up to something as sinister and wicked as what they have done to this poor girl? And to think that she actually happens to be their sixth victim, as reportedly confessed by them, actually makes the whole thing even more scary! I am just imagining the kind of double life these wicked souls may be living by committing such a heinous crime one moment (not once, but six times!), and the next moment they are busy attending classes and relating to their classmates, friends and family as if nothing happened!

    It is also very sad that some people have completely bastardized the laudable concept/idea behind sites such as facebook, which is essentially to serve as a veritable avenue for people to meet and socialize. Instead, people like these devious undergraduates have chosen to use it as an easy and anonymous means of targeting, luring and murdering unsuspecting 'friends', who have trusted them enough to want to meet them in person.

    As much as one abhors the death penalty, one still believes people like these two murderous and their accomplices do not deserve one more breath the moment their cases have been determined by the Courts and the appropriate sentence passed on them! May Cynthia's gentle soul Rest In Peace, and may God grant her family and trusted friends like Aisha the fortitude to bear her irreparable loss, Amen!

    Abdullahi Usman

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  31. Met her last year wen I came 4hols through our mutual frnds in jos dt were serving at the time. Really cool as a person. Sad to knw naija is still backwards in many areas I.e. Security n mentality. Pls accept ma condolences.. Ma frnds r totally crushed. It is rily sad. All I can say is Godiswatching#

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  32. Are there no CCTV in and outside the airports? It would be easy to trace the people that came to collect her from the airport with CCTV in major parts of any city. The state and federal governments should spend money on security equipments. We cannot see what they have done with all the trillions collected for security, since 1960. How does the Nigerian government assume that European police track down criminals of such nature?

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  33. The police have caught the two Igbo boys that killed her. They used the hotel's CCTV yet we need CCTVs outside the airport. There should be CCTVs inside the airport already. The killers drugged and raped her to death because of money.

    One of them now claims that he used a vibrator that belonged to her, on her. It is such sick news. Some people were born wicked. The killers are cousins and students too.

    They covered their faces with their hands. The police MUST patrol them so that we can recognize them in future. Nigerian law is not against revealing their faces. They have confessed anyway. The girl was too pretty to die like that. Did they cover their faces while they killed her.

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  34. Hmmm! This is a nice and loyal piece Aisha. May God bless you. You have given us a whole new insight to the case. Forgive those who may have drawn wrong conclusions. It's as a result of what we see going around. Thank God the culprits have been caught. may God grant u all the fortitude to bear the loss.
    Social network has been of much advantage to people in several ways. Guess like the saying goes "There are two sides to everything (Advantages and disadvantages). May God guide us. RIP Cynthia.

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  35. SO SAD. I KNOW HOW PEOPLE JUDJE ME FROM AFAR COS I'M DOING SO WELL. BUT IT IS ONLY PPL CLOSE TO ME THAT KNOWS ME WELL. I PRAY TO GOD TO GRANT THE MUM & ENTIRE FAMILIES THE FORTITUTE TO BEAR THE LOSS.

    AND MAY HER SOUL RIP! AMEN
    LARA

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